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We are currently working with a group of guys and girls from a secondary school in san Rafael Las Flores, Santa Rosa, Guatemala.
It has been an amazing experience to listen to the opinions of the group, share their comments and watch the exchange of ideas between them.
Its difficult with the girls sometimes to hear how they don’t value themselves as women. We’re trying to overcome this by sharing with them stories of other women, working on self esteem, goals and what they want for their own future.
Through working with this group, we have noticed an increase of trust within them. Now we can talk about certain themes with much more freedom, without fear of what they will say. In the start, talking about sexuality would always cause them to laugh and joke. Now it’s a really productive conversation, because as the groups are learning, more and more questions are coming up that help them to understand the topics and not take them so lightly.
One of the things that we have noticed in the group of boys is that there’s a lot of machoism, jokes and inappropriate comments. Maybe it’s a cultural thing with young people. It seems to happen more in rural areas, where these themes you don’t talk about with anyone, especially not when a woman is talking about it. We’re trying to get them to understand more about the topics, so they open their minds a little to want to ask more questions and take the issue a little more seriously -- so that they can learn and be responsible with their sexuality.
A lot of members of the group, comment on the topics in later workshops, which is great to know that they are interested in what they are learning.
They’re interested in learning more about their sexuality and we’re finding that every class more themes arise that help them understand their sexuality.
We think this course is so valuable for these guys and girls to become responsible about their sexuality, make them think about the consequences of irresponsible actions they may take. Using examples from the book really helps with this. Hearing real life stories and sharing stories from other young people in their community, about their way of life, after being irresponsible is like looking in a mirror...
Taller Entre Querés y Quisieras / Between Wishing and Needing Workshop, Santiago Atitlan Guatemala
Working with the girls in Santiago Atitlán was sad, happy, inspiring and depressing all at the same time… The first eye opener was the exercise where we wrote the word “woman” on the board and the girls had to shout out the first word that came to mind. “Hard working”, “affectionate”, “flowers” were all good starters. But when words like “lazy”, “ugly” and “stupid” started coming out, I knew we had a big task ahead of us. I then added words like “special”, important” and “family” and once we had all the words up, we very quickly deleted the words that we are NOT as women!
We used Entre Querés y Quisieras (Between Wishing and Needing) as a tool to get the conversation happening between the girls. We’d read a chapter each week, then use the cards or just have a general chat about some of the themes raised. It was really amazing how little they knew about some topics – like menstruation (what it does to you, what it feels like, do other people know, how do you know when its going to happen) what your options are if you don’t want to have relations with somebody and how much they knew about other topics – like the beatings you get for using bad words and what that does to a persons self esteem.
Trabajando con las niñas en Santiago Atilán era muy triste, feliz, inspiracional y deprimente a la misma vez… La primera cosa que me sorprendió fue la actividad donde escribimos la palabra “mujer” en el pizarrón y las niñas tuvieron que decir la primera palabra que viene a la mente. “Trabajadora”, “cariñosa”, “flores” fueron buenos inicios. Pero cuando dijeron palabras como “perezosa”, “fea” y “tonta”, me di cuenta que tuvimos un gran reto! Yo añadí palabras como “especial”, “importante” “familia” y cuando tuvimos todas las palabras, borramos muy pronto las palabras que NO somos como mujeres!
Usamos Entre Querés y Quisieras como una herramienta para empezar la conversación entre las niñas. Leímos un capitulo cada semana y luego usar las tarjetas o solo hablar de algunos de los temas. Fue increíble ver que poco sabían de algunos temas – como la menstruación (que te hace, que siente, si sabe otra gente, cuando sabe que va a pasar) y cuales son sus opciones si no quieren tener relaciones con alguien y cuanto sabían de otros temas – como los golpes que reciben por usar malas palabras y que hace eso a la autoestima de una persona.
Let’s talk about hitting a child...
siblings....
what would you do?
How do you want your children to see you?